The Surrender of Women’s Spaces: How Gender Ideology Enforces Male Access

When Schools Coerce Girls and Politicians Celebrate Predators, Who Is Really Being Protected?

In Deerfield, Illinois, teenage girls at a middle School were forced to change clothes in the presence of a boy in their locker room, in accordance with school policies that prioritize gender self-identification over biological sex. These policies, often justified under Illinois’ non-discrimination laws, disregard girls’ rights to privacy and bodily autonomy, reinforcing the notion that male claims to female spaces take precedence over female safety. When they protested, school administrators reprimanded them and attempted to coerce their compliance, citing the district’s “inclusive” bathroom policy that allows students to use facilities based on gender identity rather than biological sex.

Meanwhile, in Georgia, a state legislator took the floor wearing a trans pride flag neckerchief to honor Monica Helms—a man whose documented history of sexual fetishism and forced feminization erotica directly shaped the ideological landscape that now demands women's compliance. His fetish-driven activism led to the normalization of policies that prioritize male validation over female safety, reinforcing the cultural shift that enables men to claim women's spaces under the guise of 'gender identity.' These two incidents are not separate; they are part of the same ideological war on women and girls, where male fetishes are protected at the expense of female safety.

The School Locker Room as a Battleground for Male Entitlement

The events in Deerfield should send a chill down every parent’s spine. When girls reported discomfort with a male student watching them undress, school officials—including an Assistant Superintendent, Assistant Principal, and Director of Student Services—responded not by removing the boy, but by punishing the girls.

One student’s mother testified before the school board that her daughter was pressured for an entire week to change in front of the boy. When she refused, school officials offered to move her to a different PE unit rather than addressing the violation of her privacy. The mother pointed out that the district was in direct violation of a recent executive order restricting males from female-only spaces, but administrators insisted they were following legal counsel’s interpretation of Illinois’ non-discrimination laws. When she refused, school officials offered to move her to a different PE unit rather than addressing the violation of her privacy. When she refused, she was told by the principal that boys are entitled to access girls’ locker rooms so long as they “identify as female.”

This is not “inclusion”; it is stripping away a girl’s right to say no—to demand privacy, to refuse male intrusion, to set boundaries. Legal protections such as Title IX were established to ensure women and girls have access to safe, sex-segregated spaces, yet these rights are being eroded under the guise of inclusivity. Radical feminist scholars like Sheila Jeffreys have long warned about the dangers of gender ideology, emphasizing that policies forcing girls into vulnerable positions ultimately serve male interests. The fact that school administrators went so far as to enforce compliance shows just how deep the rot goes. They weren’t just tolerating a policy; they were forcing submission. The fact that school administrators went so far as to enforce compliance shows just how deep the rot goes. They weren’t just tolerating a policy; they were forcing submission.

A Flag Born from Male Sexual Fetishism

As young girls are told they must accommodate male presence in their private spaces, politicians are actively celebrating men with disturbing histories. Late last month, during a Georgia House debate on HB 267, the Riley Gaines Act, which seeks to protect women’s sports from male intrusion, a Democratic representative took time not to defend women and girls, but to praise Monica Helms, the creator of the trans pride flag.

“As I leave this well today, wearing my trans flag around my neck, I want to thank Monica Helms. She is the creator of this trans flag and she is a Georgian.”

What this representative conveniently left out is that Monica Helms, formerly Robert Hogge, is no symbol of civil rights. His own writings reveal a disturbing pattern of fetish-driven behavior:

• At 12, he stole his mother’s bras and panties for sexual gratification.

• As an adult, he stole women’s underwear from his apartment complex laundry room.

• He forced his wife to accept his cross-dressing fetish, drained their finances on women’s clothing and hormones, and abandoned his family when they refused to indulge him.

• After divorcing his wife, he spent years frequenting sex clubs before suddenly deciding he was a “lesbian.”

• He wrote forced feminization erotica, including a story featuring a girl who appears “no more than sixteen” using magic powers to ensnare a man into marriage.

This is the man being upheld as an icon of “trans liberation.” The trans pride flag wasn’t born out of oppression—it was born out of a man’s fetishistic obsession with women.

Connecting the Dots: From Helms to Deerfield

The forced compliance in Deerfield and the political veneration of Helms are not separate issues. In Deerfield, administrators not only enforced a boy’s access to girls’ private spaces but also actively supervised the locker room to ensure compliance, disregarding parental complaints and federal directives, including a recent executive order restricting males from female-only spaces. Meanwhile, in Georgia, lawmakers praised a man whose documented history reveals an obsession with forced feminization and voyeuristic fantasies. Both reflect a systemic effort to normalize the erasure of women's boundaries by elevating male fetishism to the status of a civil rights cause. These are not isolated events—they are part of a broader cultural shift that prioritizes male validation over female safety. They stem from the same ideology: the belief that male desires must override female rights. Schools are teaching girls that their boundaries don’t matter. Politicians are telling women that they must celebrate men with sexual fixations on female identity.

Resisting the Normalization of Male Intrusion

We must resist. Parents must hold schools accountable, demand the repeal of policies that force girls into compromising situations, and refuse to let their daughters be sacrificed to gender ideology. Women must refuse to let fetishists like Monica Helms be framed as heroes. Legislators who claim to fight for women’s rights must be called out when they betray those principles in favor of male validation.

The truth is, this movement has never been about civil rights. Advocates claim it is about inclusivity and protecting vulnerable individuals, but in practice, it enables male entitlement at the expense of women's safety. If this were truly a civil rights issue, it would not demand that young girls sacrifice their privacy and boundaries to accommodate male desires. Civil rights should not come at the cost of coercion and submission.

It has always been about affirming the entitlement of perverted males—repackaged, rebranded, and force-fed to a society too afraid to push back. Enough is enough. Women and girls will not be coerced into silence. We will fight back, reclaim our spaces, and demand our rights.