Reality Bites: The BBC’s Gender Agenda Undermines Same-Sex Love

Gender Ideology Is Hijacking Representation—One Dating Show at a Time

Last year, I wrote about I Kissed a Girl and how rare it felt to see women loving women—without the gender fog, without the forced inclusion of men calling themselves some type of woman.

Reclaiming Reality: The Power of Linguistic Resistance

In the realm of self-definition, societal norms exert significant influence, shaping the language we use to identify ourselves and others. Amidst these norms, the act of reclaiming terms that accurately reflect reality emerges as a potent form of resistance. This essay aims to delve into the transformative power of linguistic reclamation, drawing inspiration from recent discourse from the Lesbian Caucus of Women’s Declaration International USA and the interactions among participants in BBC’s reality dating show “I Kissed a Girl”. Through these narratives, we explore the profound significance of reclaiming terms like “lesbian,” shedding light on how such acts challenge stigmas, empower women, and foster a sense of female solidarity.

“I Kissed a Girl,” a recent addition to my TV rotation, provides insight into the romantic pursuits of single British lesbian and bisexual women amidst the picturesque backdrop of an Italian masseria. Notably, the show stands out for its absence of men pretending to be women and women adopting metaphysical gender identities, a departure from the increasingly common depiction of wlw relationships on television. In episode 2 of the series, a particularly enlightening moment is initiated by Georgia, a professional soccer player, as she seeks opinions on the usage of the word “lesbian.” During the poolside conversation and in confessional scenes, Georgia expresses her struggle with embracing the label. In a confessional cutaway, she states, “Being a lesbian is something to be so proud of, but a lot of the time I don’t really know how to.”

This topic elicits a thoughtful dialogue among the women, revealing a shared discomfort with the term “lesbian” and a preference for alternative labels such as “gay girl”, “queer”, or saying one is “into girls.” However, despite Georgia’s own reservations about the term, she seizes the opportunity to educate her fellow participants about the historical significance of the term “lesbian” and why it comes first in the LGB acronym. By highlighting the pivotal role of lesbians in caring for others during the AIDS epidemic, Georgia fosters a newfound appreciation for the term “lesbian” among her fellow contestants, prompting a shift in perspective for many of the women and leading them to embrace the term “lesbian” with newfound pride.

Coincidentally, during Lesbian Visibility Week, two weeks prior, the Lesbian Caucus of WDI USA published a post titled “Why Are Lesbians Hated?” This post delved into the complexities surrounding the definition of “lesbian” and its evolving meaning in contemporary society. It examined how the influx of gender ideology has blurred the boundaries of lesbianism and attempted to redefine who a lesbian is and what being a lesbian means. The piece also addressed the challenges faced by lesbians in today’s world. These challenges include the invasion of lesbian spaces by men who identify as women, the closure of lesbian bars, and discrimination against lesbians happening on dating apps for lesbians. Thus, shedding light on the complexities of lesbian identity, community, and resistance.

The Lesbian Caucus’s blog post and the poolside conversation on “I Kissed a Girl” highlight the need to reclaim and embrace language that accurately reflects sexuality and other parts of reality as an act of empowerment and resistance. By confronting the discomfort and stigma associated with terms like “lesbian” and advocating for their rightful place in the lexicon of sexuality, women reclaim their agency over those words. This act of linguistic reclamation is not only about asserting one’s identity but also about challenging societal norms and dismantling the patriarchal structures that pressure women into doublespeak. Ultimately, by reclaiming and embracing terms that accurately describe female sexuality, and other parts of reality, we pave the way for a more authentic and liberated existence for all women.

It was a breath of fresh air…but one that likely won’t last.

Season 2 of I Kissed a Boy (which I Kissed a Girl is a spinoff of) premiered Sunday—and the BBC has cast a heterosexual woman (pretending to be a man) on the gay male dating show. They saved the gender propaganda to sneak it in during the second season.

Now gay men are expected to play along. Validate her. Flirt with her. Maybe even kiss her—on international television—under the looming threat of being labeled bigots for refusing.

As the LGB Alliance rightly pointed out, this is homophobic. Gay men already lived through an era when they were pressured into opposite-sex relationships to survive. Now the BBC is rebranding that as “representation.”

Gay shows should be for gay people. Sexual orientation isn’t about identity claims or internal feelings—it’s about sex. Homosexuality and bisexuality have concrete meanings. And those meanings matter.

If I Kissed a Boy becomes the new model, it won’t be long before I Kissed a Girl is forced to follow. A man strutting into the masseria and expecting sapphic women to treat him as “just one of the girls”? *shudder* At this point, we’d be naïve to pretend we didn’t see it coming.

Same-sex spaces matter and same-sex attracted people deserve truth—not political theater.

The BBC can’t claim to celebrate same-sex love while attempting to rewrite what it means.