The Trap of Trans Activist Victimhood: Why Some Never Wake Up
Facts alone won’t wake people up—only a willingness to face reality will.
The battle over gender ideology is often only framed as a legislative or legal fight but laws alone won’t dismantle the deep-seated victimhood narrative that fuels the movement. As wisely noted by
:“If you fight for legislation without any regard for the importance of ministering to the hearts and minds of the people they affect, you’re going to end up with a whole new set of problems to pass on to future generations.”
While the nation is making progress in outlawing gender ideology’s attacks on women and children, the real challenge is dismantling the emotional and psychological framework that sustains it. Ending harmful practices through legislation does not automatically change the underlying social attitudes that give them power.
The Politics of Perpetual Victimhood
Last month, I attended a regional “LGBTQ+” webinar responding to Trump’s executive orders. The dominant emotions? Fear, frustration, and grief. Trans activists described the current political landscape as an existential threat. There was no recognition that these policy shifts would actually protect vulnerable members of society—including transgender-identified individuals themselves—from harmful medical and ideological practices. Instead, the rhetoric remained focused on oppression.
But the movement isn’t collapsing due to external forces alone—it’s crumbling under its own refusal to self-reflect. Gender ideology’s overreach—compromising women’s rights, pushing medical interventions on children, and coercing compliance through legal force—has contributed to the current political pushback. And introspection, the very thing that many trans activists resist, is often what "peaks" individuals who once supported transgenderism but later realized its contradictions and harms.
But not everyone is willing—or able—to wake up.
The Need for Radical Honesty
A painful realization I had late last year, included in Reclaiming Reality: Southeastern Legislation and the Fight for Women’s Rights, is that ideology doesn’t always break under scrutiny—it can harden, trapping its adherents in deeper cognitive dissonance. For every detransitioner or desister who escapes, countless others remain ensnared, unable or unwilling to confront the reality of what this ideology has done to them and others.
Mosley’s experience echoes this sentiment:"The trans-identifying activists who threaten me, and chant 'death before detransition,' are the main people I'm fighting for... They’re so desperate to cling onto an ideology that will not actually save them... But there is hope after trans healthcare, and there's even more hope if you never begin down the path to medicalization."
Those who double down, rejecting any possibility of regret, are not just defending an ideology—they are defending their survival within it. Admitting the truth would mean everything unravels.
Breaking the Cycle of Victimhood Without Feeding Into It
Trans activists thrive on an “us vs. them” mentality, portraying every legal and cultural shift as a personal attack. If we want to help others break free, we must challenge this cycle without reinforcing its premise. That means refusing to entertain the idea that opposing gender ideology equates to “denying trans people’s existence.” The reality is that legal recognition of sex protects everyone—including those suffering from gender dysphoria.
’s own journey reveals that much of what is called "gender dysphoria" is actually the result of societal expectations and subcultural influence:"While I was grappling with all of this, the definition of trans was morphing: lines were blurring. People were starting to say you didn’t need to have dysphoria to be trans—perhaps you simply experienced gender euphoria when you dressed in a gender nonconforming way."
"It was becoming unpopular and old-fashioned to think of transition as a linear change from one gender to its opposite, entailing a specific set of medical treatments."
"Some people spoke of gender-affirming medical treatments as if they were simply another type of body modification, like piercings or tattoos."
The identity-first activism model traps people in a fixed state of victimhood, where their entire existence is defined by their oppression. We must present an alternative framework—one that emphasizes personal agency, reality-based self-reflection, and the ability to make different choices.
Why Backlash Is Not the Same as Persecution
For years, the movement’s policy victories faced little resistance—until they began harming women, children, and society at large. Backlash was inevitable. Yet instead of acknowledging that people have legitimate concerns, trans activists interpret any resistance as an outright attack.
It’s crucial to reframe the conversation: Pushback against radical policies is not persecution; it’s a correction. The movement is facing consequences for its own overreach.
"When I stopped constantly bracing for the impact of being misgendered, it didn’t seem to hurt as much when it happened. I gradually became much more relaxed and spontaneous in social settings: my social anxiety faded away." — Kier Adrian Gray
This shift in perspective is critical. Trans activists are conditioned to interpret normal, non-hostile interactions as attacks, feeding into their wounded identity. They become perpetually on edge, creating more distance between themselves and the reality of the world around them.
Engaging on an Emotional and Intellectual Level
But if the movement is unraveling due to its own contradictions, then the question becomes: how do we reach those still trapped within it? Simply presenting facts isn’t enough—people are drawn into gender ideology through emotional appeal, and breaking through requires a similar approach.
The goal isn’t immediate deprogramming but planting seeds of doubt. A well-placed question, a personal story of someone who desisted, or an invitation to engage with different perspectives can be far more effective than outright confrontation.
Kier Adrian Gray’s journey demonstrates the power of self-exploration:
"My newfound freedom was palpable: I began to feel as though I could talk to anyone and tolerate surprises that might arise. I spent less time in the mirror, adjusting how shirts fell across my chest. I felt more present in the world, more attuned to my interests and hobbies as my self-consciousness decreased."
This is the kind of liberation that we must offer—a freedom that does not depend on validation from others, but on a deep reconciliation with reality.
The Next Battle: Minds
Laws set boundaries, but boundaries don’t change belief systems. We need a strategy that addresses the emotional and psychological roots of this movement. Gender ideology thrives in the absence of critical thinking and personal responsibility. The more it is challenged—honestly, consistently, and compassionately—the more opportunities there are for individuals to walk away.
Breaking the cycle of trans activist victimhood isn’t all about legislating it out of existence. It’s about exposing it for what it is: a self-perpetuating ideology that feeds on fear, isolates individuals from reality, and ultimately leaves them more vulnerable than before. The only escape from this manufactured reality is truth. And the truth always wins—eventually.
For those seeking support in addressing underlying mental health concerns, Therapy First offers reality-based therapeutic care resources designed to help individuals process their experiences without ideological coercion. Beyond Trans provides funding for therapy for those harmed by medical transition and offers free support programs for gender-related distress.
As detransitioner
recently shared:"Today was hard but felt like a sort of rite of passage. Thank god I have a therapist I trust and who is not peddling a gender-affirming agenda. @TherapyFirstOrg & @BeyondTransHelp helped make attending regular therapy attainable for me. I also appreciate the group sessions I’ve been able to attend when my schedule permits."
Facing reality is the first step toward true freedom. And for those ready to take that step, support is available.
Backlash and Persecution are not the same ‼️
There was never a Salem trans hunt, but there was a Salem witch hunt that convicted and publicly hung a few females that were misunderstood by men.
Wait I better not mention that because it might be co-opt by transformers 🤫